Self-Care Sunday: Decluttering your wardrobe!

Have you ever been stressed out by the pile of laundry that’s been sitting there for a week? It’s an eye-sore and weighs heavy on our minds. Laundry piles, or as I like to call them, “Mount Washmore” and “Mount Foldmore,” are just big ol’ reminders that there’s more stuff to do.

I’m finally figuring out that the less I have the less I have to keep up with. My goodness it is refreshing! The less clothes you have, the easier it is to get ready in the morning. The less clothes you have, the less laundry you have to do. The less clothes you have, the more likely they will be pieces you actually love and feel good in. You get the point!

There’s a study somewhere that says we only use 20% of the clothes in our closet. I’m not sure if that’s true but it sounds about right to me. I know I always go for the same things. The clothes that go easily together, feel and look the best on me, are effortless and timeless.

Today we will focus on a few things to get rid of from your wardrobe.

I am a no-nonsense kinda gal. I like to keep things simple and to the point. I made this SO simple and straight-forward that it won’t take much thought or effort to do. You don’t have to decide if each piece sparks joy (which for some reason doesn’t work for me!) or anything like that. It is as straight forward as it can get!

If it fits in any of these categories, it goes. That’s it.

I am talking about the clothes that aren’t even worth giving away. The ones that need repairs you never made, are faded, misshapen and saggy in weird places. The clothes that you got your use out of but are just no longer flattering any way, shape or form. Just let them go. You’ll never feel good wearing them. They are just frumpy. How many sets of “work clothes” or “yard clothes” or “painting clothes” do you really need? If you want to keep one old pair of jeans and shirt fine, but keep them in a separate place from your wardrobe so you don’t have to look at them every day.

This is another no-brainer. They aren’t going to get more comfortable. Life is way to short to be walking around with blisters, pinched toes, sore feet and a bad back. It’s just NOT WORTH IT. Get rid of them today. You won’t miss them. I’m sorry you made that purchase but we’ve all been there. They looked cute in the store or you needed them for a special occasion but now there they sit: too late to return them but you don’t want to have considered the money wasted. It’s already gone, Baby. There’s no getting it back or getting any value out of something that doesn’t work for you. They are simply taking up precious space! Take it is a lesson to invest in good quality shoes and resist purchasing cheap or trendy shoes in the future. Your body will thank you!

What you wear underneath does make a difference. If you have an uncomfortable bra or underwear get rid of them immediately. Why would you want to be pulling at your bra strap or have underwear riding up all day? No one wants to have underwear lines either. Go for seamless! I’d rather have one pair of nice fitting underwear for each day of the week than than a bunch that might look cute but are uncomfortable. As boring as it may be, I have found a brand I like and bought around two dozen pair. That’s all I wear now. Easy peasy. I only have a few bras also but they all fit perfectly, give me a nice shape, are comfy and look good under everything. No more weird bulges, sore shoulders or straps that fall. Ahhhhhhh. And socks…same deal. For work (I’m a nurse) I bought a bunch of the same brand that I know fit well and are comfortable. So easy to pair up. I do have dress socks and tights too but keep it simple with every day socks and it really does save me time, effort and the frustration of pairing them. And as soon as a pair gets worn out, it goes in the trash! I think I got around 20 pair because the rotation of them keeps them looking new for a longer period of time.

If it is doesn’t properly fit you it doesn’t belong in your closet. Period. If you try something on in the morning and have to take it off because it’s not flattering, too short, too baggy or tight then out it goes. If it pinches, pulls, requires adjusting or you feel self-conscious in it (I’m talking muffin top, camel toe, your tummy or back shows when you lean over, etc) out it goes. It just makes sense. You need to be able to move freely in your clothes. And by the way, when you do lose weight (if that’s your goal and reason for hanging onto something) you’ll want new clothes anyway. That was a different time. Holding onto them isn’t making you any thinner or you’d already fit into them. You can’t go backwards. Just live for today and wear what looks great on your body shape now.

If you have something that is completely outdated it is time to let it go. You got your use out of it. If you have something that has an unusual pattern and you can never seem to find something to wear it with, that’s another item that can be let go and will never be missed.

What you’re going to be left with is going to make you feel so good about yourself. You’ll be looking and feeling fine!

It makes you feel better mentally. It actually can de-stress you and make you feel calmer and even happier. It takes stress off of one little area of your life. One step at a time to a healthier, more productive, beautifully simplified life where you can admire a clean closet, feel good in your skin and just have less stuff to take care of.

Image from IKEA

If you just got rid of the items above you will be in really great shape. As a BONUS to yourself, if you are feeling really ambitious, you could also go through all of your accessories such as belts, bags, jewelry and such. I can make a separate post on that if anyone is interested.

I sure hope this was helpful to someone and you don’t wait as long as I did to figure this out!

Let me know in the comments if you’re already a minimalist or are really good at purging items on a regular basis. I’d love to hear any great tips. I’m just learning as I go. Do you agree with the above suggestions? If not, why?

Thank you for reading!

May you be happy and well!

Self-Care Sunday: 12 Best ASMR Videos

Autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR) is a subjective experience of relaxation and pleasant tingling sensations triggered by specific auditory or visual stimuli.

I only learned there was a definition for this a few years ago but have always had the tingles and enjoyable, relaxing and comforting feelings when hearing certain sounds. I love when wood is tapped on or certain papers crinkle.

I personally also get the tingles when I feel things with my hands such as the soft silky part at the end of old blankets or baby blankets, the feeling of writing with a pen on certain types of surfaces like cardboard and squishing slime or running my fingers through beans. It’s the strangest thing!

More sounds I love are the brushing of hair and certain words being whispered.

This is a form of relaxation. It can help take your mind off of a stressful situation. It may also help you to fall asleep.

My husband doesn’t “get it” at all. He experiences nothing when listening to some of the videos I had him try. So you may not feel anything at all.

But if you do, you are in for a real treat because today I compiled some of my favorite ASMR artists and their videos for you.

Wood tapping

Tapping and scratching

Qi Music Sounds

Role playing hair wash

Role play haircut

Whispering, back scratching and brushing

Whispering self esteem and confidence

No talking: triggers galore

Tingle city!

Thich Nhat Hahn’s unintentional ASMR

An hour of hair brushing without talking.

3 hours of sounds to fall asleep to

Soap cutting and crushing

Kinetic sand

Sand cutting compilation

Mouth sounds, scratching and more.

If you are new to ASMR and likes some of these videos or want to explore more sounds just do a google search or go to Youtube. There are so many different ones that may appeal to you that are not in this post.

There are lots of ASMR IG accounts as well if you’d like to see some ASMR in your IG feed to you calm and tingly.

I hope you enjoyed this post. It’s a little different so I know not everyone will be into it so even if you aren’t, check back on Sundays for lots more ideas for Self-Care Sunday. Self-care is my favorite thing to blog about. I want everyone to be able to relax after a busy week. There are so many ways to unwind. It’s fun to explore them and see what will work.

May you be happy and well.

Images from WeHeartIt and Unsplash

Self-Care Sunday: Simplify

FYI: There’s a list of ideas to simplify at the end if you want to skip reading.

Today’s self-care has to do with simplifying. The less stuff you have the less you have to take care of. That’s a big part of simplifying yet there’s a lot more to it than that.

We will be moving this summer so have been trying to declutter our home here and there. I’ve thrown away quite a few large garbage bags full of stuff and have donated about the same amount.

We now have a box in a spare room that we use as our designated donation box. I love having it and know I’ll always have some form of this from now on.

I place anything I think I don’t need or no longer want in it. It stays there for a while (until it’s full) then I go through it once more. If there’s something in it that I find I want to hang onto, it’s no big deal. I know I can take it out or keep it for the next round, if I’m still unsure. Honestly, I haven’t had to do that yet, but knowing it’s an option is reassuring that I won’t miss something.

Although I love Maria Kondo’s methods of tidying, I do not recommend making a full house sweep. We did that when we moved across the country and truly did regret getting rid of items we had to buy again. When you try to go too quickly the line gets blurred between what you want and don’t, at least for us. It was difficult to even remember what we got rid of or didn’t and found ourselves searching in boxes at the new place for things we actually did get rid of. In my opinion, having tried that approach, it’s better to just make this an ongoing project.

Simplifying and living life with intention are both ongoing. You start in one area of your life, like decluttering your home, for example (which is actually the easiest, as daunting as it may seem), then move on to, perhaps, living greener and maybe working on certain personal goals you have for your health, your career or what you want to put out into the world and it just grows from there.

You become gravitated to certain books, projects and even people that all seem to help you in some way until one day you find yourself living the life you imagined.

Happiness is not about how much you have, your status, title or who you know. It isn’t about anything most of society think it is and continue to strive to obtain.

It has nothing to do with materialism, money, popularity or good looks despite what social media puts out every day.

Happiness comes from the ongoing journey of cultivating your life: bringing only things and people in who add to your life on a deeper level and being willing to let the rest fall away.

When our inbox, home, work and personal life are cluttered with so much stuff, tasks and people to tend to, it doesn’t leave any time for self-care, reflection or to even just enjoy living in the moment.

Don’t be afraid to let things go that no longer serve you. When you have less you truly do have so much more because you have time to focus on what really matters. You stop feeling like a chicken with its head cut off. You stop running around doing tasks and then wondering what you accomplished at the end of the day. You have time to breathe and really enjoy living life. It’s quite a life-transformation. I’m on this journey now and have been really changing a lot in so many ways that have been beneficial. I just enjoy life more lately.

I’ve created the list below to inspire you to try doing one thing each day to simplify your life, then see if any changes take place mentally or even physically, as our body stores tension and stress in many different ways.

The worse thing that can happen is that you’re a little more organized!

Obviously, this is just a platform to jump from. There are tons of others ideas I’m sure you’ll come up with on your own once you get going!

Let me know what you think! Do you already incorporate a lot of these ideas?

May you be happy and well.