Another blog challenge from Day65! Who inspires me the most?
Three people came to mind. My mom, son and husband. They are my biggest inspirations in life.
My mom is always kind. She’s soft spoken and very caring. She raised eight kids. She never yelled at us. Even if she tried to discipline us it just never really worked because of her soft heart. I just love her so much and still aspire to be like her. A while back my oldest sister said I looked like mom when I posted a selfie on FB. Something about that just warmed my heart. I took it as a sweet compliment.
My son has an old soul. He’s always been more mature for his age. He quickly learned life lessons that took me many years to learn. He has a smile that lights up a room, is intelligent, hard working, incredibly caring and funny. He’s a joy to be around. People of all ages have always gravitated toward him and he gets along with everyone.
My husband is my number one inspiration though. He has always worked hard for us, never complains or raises his voice and is so supportive to me. Little did he know (or either of us know) when we got married that I’d end up with depression, anxiety and chronic back pain. It doesn’t matter to him. He’s been by my side through it all. He is never annoyed if I ask him to lift things for me to save my back or rub my back or anything at all. I just feel like he’s an extension of me when it comes to his taking care of me. He just knows what I need and does it. He does a lot of the housework and grocery shopping even though he works full time and I don’t. (2019 is first year I haven’t worked full time and I’m struggling to work due to pain now). He brings me food and tells me to just rest when I’m having a lot of pain. He never complains about it. Even in his body language he doesn’t show any negativity at all about helping me. I guess that’s what happens when you’ve been married for 33 years. Truly, I’d do the same for him.
Even when we were in high school though he’s always done sweet things for me. He would wake up extra early and go way out of his way to pick me up in the car on cold days so I didn’t have to stand at the bus stop. He has always been supportive in every endeavor I’ve ever had. He truly believes in me. He is also so caring, patient and understanding with me. Even if I am crabby or have a temper he just understands it’s from being in a stressful situation or in pain.
I feel badly because I can’t do a lot of things that I know he’d like to do like go to concerts or events because I can’t stand for a long time. I also can’t sit for a long time either. I need to be able to move around when I need to. Even going to a movie leaves me in pain. Sometimes I feel like I’m holding him back but I know he doesn’t feel that I am.
He calms my anxiety, uplifts my depressed days and eases my back pain and seems to do it so effortlessly. He inspires me to be a better wife for him. He inspires me to be a better person and to have more patience and understanding. I think I am more frustrated about the things I can’t do for him than he is about doing everything he does for me. I love him more than I have been able to find the words to say.
True friends and partners aren’t just there for you when everything is going well. Anyone can do that. True love for a person is being there when times are tough. When you love someone you don’t do things for them out of pity or because you expect something back. You just do it from a place of love. Their success and happiness is yours and their pain is also yours.
We are more than partners in this lifetimes. We are soul mates. I’ve never doubted my husband’s love for me. Because of him I know what true, unconditional love is. Because of him I am a better person.
Who inspires you the most in your life?
What qualities do you look up to in a person?
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May you be happy and well.