What is your personal definition of success?
I was thinking about how much my goals have changed over the years, and my idea of success.
I used to strive for more money. Now I cherish having more time.
The more things I bought, the prouder I felt and the more I wanted. Now I want more space between a few things I really love.
I used to think that living in a certain neighborhood was cool. Home now is where my family is as well as a place in my heart.
I dressed up almost every day. Now I love dressing down and feeling comfortable.
I wanted to be well liked and accepted. I no longer have time for people who don’t like or accept me because I’m too busy loving myself.
I dreaded getting older. Now I embrace and it and the lessons I’ve learned. I wouldn’t want to go back in time for anything.
I used to be silently and unconsciously guided by society’s version of a good life. I’m no longer a lemur or a puppet to anyone.
I once thought a beautiful body was everything. Now I think imperfections are unique, interesting and should never be changed because they make people who they are.
I used to live through my ego. Now I feel the freedom of living a slower, less dramatic but more fulfilling life. One in which I can finally exhale.
I used to give all of myself to others. I was completely stressed out and exhausted because I never said no. Now I give more time to myself and say yes to self care and self love.
I used to compare myself to others and found myself in situations where I was competing and complaining. I now understand the deep truth that there is enough goodness in this world for every single one of us to be happy. It is abundant, free and ours for the taking.
Success means something different to everyone. Part of the joy and privilege of life is to be able to write our own story and change it along the way as we see fit. We should all be on the edge of our seat anticipating the pages and chapters ahead. We should be looking forward to all that is to come rather than dreading every day because it’s the same as the day before.
Living in the moment, embracing people for who they are (quirks and all), being happy with who I am and what I have, surrounding myself with people who love me for me, balancing my time with work and home; these things bring a deep meaning to my life and make me feel whole. I’m finally living my life on purpose.
If others want “The American Dream” they can have it. I’d much rather be on the sidelines, sipping on iced tea with my feet up while they spin around like tops, never really getting anywhere, always wanting more while they wear themselves out.
When you rid yourself of things, ideas, people and situations that aren’t really serving you well, you make room for more of what does. Your soul comes alive. The veils and layers get stripped away. You feel lighter and free. You start waking up. As you rub your eyes after a deep, long slumber you see the whole world in a new way. You start to shine like never before. You turn problems into challenges and embrace the beauty of this imperfect, amazing world. You understand that money can never buy what’s truly important in life: trust, peace, love, creativity, a positive mindset and hope for a better tomorrow.
I had all those things I mentioned above and more. I know what it feels like to run around like a chicken with it’s head cut off trying to do all I can in a day then never feeling like it’s enough. Letting it all go was the best thing I ever did in my life. Because even though it may have looked like it from the outside, having it sure didn’t feel like success.
Even though my life is far from perfect, I wouldn’t have it any other way. Through my challenges I’ve grown stronger. I learned how to see beyond people’s appearances and into their souls. Letting go of other’s opinions allows a deep inner peace that was buried before; covered with anxiety and worry. Riches don’t always come in the form of dollar bills. I am rich in love, purpose and passion.
If you love a busy life of working overtime and are having fun and laughing way more than you’re crying doing it, this blog probably isn’t for you. For me, that life felt like I was in a rat maze that I couldn’t find my way out of. You won’t find me praising the hustle.
Some of you won’t get this and that’s OK. We all have to walk our own path. I’m not trying to change anyone, nor do I believe I’m right and they are wrong. It may look like I’ve given up on life to some. I haven’t given up on life. I gave up all that was holding me back from truly living my best life.
For those of you who resonate with this way of living, I hope you join me on this journey through this blog. It is a work of love in which I hope to share inspirations and motivations so that you, too, can know the depth of inner peace and love that is inside of you and every one of us. I want people to know that they have options. There is a way out of that maze and it’s easier than you may think. You don’t have to be a slave to society.
May you be happy and well.