These are four questions I actually do ask myself often. They are working for me. I hope they work for you too!
Another way you can think of it is, “Is this for my highest good?” If it doesn’t make you feel good, don’t do it. “No” is a complete sentence. Don’t say yes to things you don’t want to say yes to. That includes favors for people, going to events or parties and your job too. This is the most important question that I now ask myself often. Since I’ve been doing this, I have felt so much more peace and contentment. I’ve been less stressed and feel I’m living authentically. I get a lot more accomplished that I really want to accomplish as well. We need to consistently redirect ourselves to stay on task and be focused. It is amazing what can happen in your life when you respect yourself and listen to your intuition! I think of this question as the angel on my shoulder. It keeps me on track with my diet too!
It’s ok to let things go if they no longer represent who you are today. It’s ok to also let people go who are no longer on the same path as you are. Sometimes our paths connect for a reason and then we each need to go our own way. It’s all good. Don’t make it more complicated than it is. Look around you. Let go of whatever no longer serves you. If you have trouble with this just let one thing go per day. If you have any area in your house that is cluttered that is where to start.
I once saw an Oprah clip where she said that sometimes even she doesn’t know what to do. I can only imagine the offers she gets for investments and the magnitude of what is involved in her businesses. She said that she’s made some huge mistakes that cost her a lot of money. We all feel some amount of stress at times. No one is immune to it. We are all human. Oprah said when she gets worried about how something will turn out she just asks herself this question. At times in my life when I feel crippled by a large project or new endeavor and can’t imagine climbing the whole staircase, I just take one step. Taking one step will tell me whether it feels like I’m going in the right direction or not. If it’s good, I keep going. As a side note, this also works well for easy projects too, not just hard ones. If you need to clean up the house you can simply take one step, for example, wash one dish. Chances are you will keep going. This question keeps me from procrastination in addition to helping me make decisons.
The last question that I’m going to share today is “who do I know who?” This is a variation of something I learned in my first year of nursing. One day a kindly experienced nurse told me something I have never forgotten. It was seriously the best advice I ever got in my entire nursing career. I am so thankful for it.
When you’re a new nurse (or experienced nurse for that matter, but moreso if you’re new) things can get intense really fast. If you start to run behind because one patient took more of your time, your whole day can be hellish. It also can be extremely stressful when your patients start to go downhill. We have to manage that patient and somehow juggle our other patients too. It may seem like four or five patients isn’t a lot but depending on what they have going on it can be extremely hard work. It takes focus and dedication, which is why a lot of nurses don’t even stop for a break. They don’t want to get behind or miss a call from a doc when they need something. They may be waiting for a lab result or need to get a patient ready for a procedure at a certain time. So on one of those busy days an older nurse noticed I needed some help. She stepped in because she had a lighter load. Afterwards, she told me that I don’t have to do everything alone. She said “if you ever need help and don’t know who can help you, just stand in the middle of the nursing station and yell ‘I need help’ and nurses will run to your aid.” Just knowing that was an option really made a huge difference for me. I’ve passed that advice down many times to new nurses.
She was absolutely right. No one is going to know we need help unless we ask for it. We are never really alone. I know we may feel alone- I’ve felt it many times- but we’re not. That’s just our mind playing tricks on us. It’s super important to know when your mind is starting to tailspin into a bad direction and get control of your thoughts.
Who do you know who can help you get into a company you want to get into?
Who do you know who can help you with an emotional or health problem?
Who do you know who has more experience and can advise you on something?
Who do you know who knows an answer you’re looking for?
Using this question led me to utilize my resources. As a result, I worked as a team, was better able to care for my patients and learned a whole lot too.
You do not need to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. People need people. We are not meant to be solitary creatures. It’s ok to not know the answers. Asking is how we learn.
It’s an amazing, beautiful thing when people come together to help each other.
That’s what Lambie and Bellybutton’s tagline is all about. “Together we can do anything” means just that.
I’m here for you for whatever support I can offer!
I hope these are useful for you. At least I hope they gave you some food for thought.
May 2020 bring you everything for your highest good. Know that when you do face hurdles (as we all will do) you can get over them easier with help. Whatever you go through, someone else has gone through. Know that the hurdles, too, can be for your highest good if you look for the lessons in them.
May you be happy and well.