(standing up) Ahem. My name is Chris and I am a highly sensitive person.
It has taken me so many years to accept that about myself. I’m one of those people who tear up easily when I’m sad. I also tear up when I’m confused, angry and happy. I laugh so hard I cry. I feel everyone else’s pain too. Someone once said I’m an empath. I don’t know about that but I do know I feel deeply and used to see it as a flaw; a huge one.
I never understood how feeling deeply could be a strength until a few years ago. I was embarrassed of this trait of mine and didn’t know anyone else like me. No matter how hard I tried to be like other people I just couldn’t. I tried to hide it as much as possible but inevitably my deep feelings would show (not for every little thing, obviously, but it would creep up when I didn’t want it to).
I understand now that the strength is in bearing your heart and soul for people to see. There’s a vulnerability in doing so which not everyone can do. It’s a paradox of being soft and strong at the same time.
I am here to tell you that if you are sensitive it’s ok. If you’re not sensitive it’s ok. If you’re somewhere in between it’s ok. I’m here to tell you what I wish someone had told me when I was younger. YOU ARE OK. You’re better than ok, you’re great!
Love with your whole heart. We should never hold back love and affection. If you’re a highly sensitive person then you should own that about yourself. If someone says you’re “sensitive” take it is a compliment and not a criticism.
Be the one who cries at the end of movies or when you receive a gift from the heart. Be the one who empathizes with others. Hug random people (just ask first, to be polite)! Be that person who reaches out to someone who needs it. Feel whatever it is you feel because the world needs that and if you don’t, not only are you not being true to yourself but you’re hiding your light under a bushel.
I’ve truly learned to embrace my feelings. It’s been part of my journey of healing and loving myself. This is how I was made. I was made this way for a reason.
Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks of you. Whatever way you are, you should love yourself sooner rather than later. You should start showing up as you right now if you aren’t already.
It’s taken me a long time to learn this on my own. I don’t want you to spend another minute questioning yourself because I know that you have been made to be you for a reason too.