How to retain only good memories

It’s going to take some practice, but learning to live in the moment is life changing. When I can do it, I always feel on top of the world, unstoppable and love my life.

It’s only when we dwell on negative memories or worry about the future that we become miserable and weary.

There’s been a lot going around the internet about “manifesting” the life you want. I don’t believe that one can wish something into existence. I think a lot of people totally misunderstand a deeper meaning to manifestation. I think it is better to say “cultivate the life you desire.”

There is truth in the self-fulfilling prophecy, however. If you truly believe something, deep down inside your very core, about yourself, it becomes your truth and ultimately you’re reality.

We all believe things from our own level of perception. That’s what becomes our reality. sometimes, and maybe even most of the time, however, our perception isn’t true knowledge. If you’re wondering if it is perception or true knowledge just remember that you don’t question true knowledge. It is TRUE for everyone.

When my husband was going to college he was taught about a study. They took young students (kindergarten I think) and tested their intelligence level by some comprehensive tests. They divided the group into those that scored above and below average by some dividing score. Only they told the teacher and the students that the group who tested above average were the ones who tested below average and vice versa. So nor the teachers or students really knew their scores. They also made a point to actually divide them and tell them that one group was above average and one below. That’s all they knew. The school year went on as it normally would. At the end of the year they retested the class and most of the ones in the false above average group actually did score very high and the original above average group (being told they were below average) actually scored lower. I don’t have reference to this study but I’m sure you can find it somewhere. That is the self-fulfilling prophecy.

Where do those negative thoughts that creep in come from though? How do some people have an innate confidence and ability to succeed while others don’t?

I believe it comes from living your best life in the moment. This is something I’ve been learning and it’s taking me on a really beautiful journey. I think some people can learn this earlier than others. Some people realize it as a really young age. Even if they’ve had unfortunate circumstances in their life they learn this truth and change their life for the better. Those are the rare people that come from terrible circumstances to achieve great success.

Kids naturally have this ability until it’s conditioned out of them. I had a patient once whose sister is the most confident little girl I know. Even if you tell her that her clothes don’t match or she’s too loud or whatever she just blows it off and says something to the effect of “that’s how I roll!” I absolutely love it! Albeit she has a little trouble with authority but that girl is going places, I am telling you! I pray that society never breaks her beautiful, wild spirit.

When you stop thinking about things that you perceived as negative (that’s another illusion; that things are negative or positive) that happened in your past, then you can free yourself from false negative beliefs about yourself.

For example, someone who was verbally abused as a child created (manifested) a false belief that they are unworthy or inadequate. That then becomes their self-fulfilling prophecy.

Once they realize the abuse had nothing to do with them, they can take away any negativity from it. That abusive person was doing the best they could on their own journey. It wasn’t for the abused person to fix them or do anything differently. They just happened to be in their path.

We can’t help what happened to us as children or even as adults sometimes. But once we can recognize things like this about others we can choose to either not let it bother us or remove ourselves from the situation altogether.

Letting the past go is something that takes a conscious effort. It’s your subconscious mind that inserts those memories when “triggers” come up in your life. We all have them because we all have emotions. At some point something happened that made you feel a negative emotion. When similar situations arise (the trigger) a part of your brain reacts to it as if it’s history repeating itself. The problem with that is that your subconscious (more primitive) mind doesn’t understand time and reacts as if it’s happening now.

That’s how we get into a vicious cycle of negative thinking, guarding, becoming defensive, etc. The “new thing happening” most likely has nothing to do with a fault of yours. It isn’t someone attacking you as your subconscious mind may perceive. But remember, what your subconscious mind perceives to be true is true for it and ultimately you if you allow it.

That’s why we can find ourselves in similar situations over and over again. Whether it be always finding the wrong type of partner (abusive, alcoholic, controlling or “not there”) or the wrong types of job situations or even never being able to lose weight, for examples.

Once you realize you have control over your thoughts, you can immediately recognize that this is a false subconscious thought. Negative memories or the consequences of them such as low self-esteem or whatever the emotions produced, can be stopped in their tracks.

I’ve been paying closer attention to my subconscious thoughts lately after listening to a lot of Eckhart Tolle talks, as well as others (A Course in Miracles, various meditations, Ram Dass, Alan Watts. Plus reading Khalil Gibran, Rumi, Marcus Aurelius and more).

Whenever I think a negative thought- anything at all negative, I’ve been using my conscious mind to say to myself “that’s not true.”

That simple thought process reversal of “not true” is amazing!

I don’t have to dig deep into my past to try to figure out what happened to cause me to create this negative thought or even know what the trigger is (that’s super helpful to do though. When you have time to delve deeper into it, it can be extremely healing. If you don’t know how, a therapist can help you). I only have to know that something happened in my past (that had nothing to do with me) that embedded a memory, something triggered it and that all of it is FALSE.

It takes a bit of deeper thinking to grasp and understand this but learning is growing and we will all need to do some deep thinking once in a while to find out who we really are and what magnificence we are capable of. If this is making sense to you then you are on the right path and ready to start incorporating this into your daily life. If it is sounding like mumbo-jumbo, that’s ok. You’re entitled to your opinion! It doesn’t change my truth which is that negative thoughts no longer serve me.

Once we can let go of those bad memories (which are always false. Nothing can be bad if we have learned from it because learning is growing) we can understand our true worth as human beings.

There is not one of us who does not have the same potential to become enlightened. In Buddhism, the term for this is Buddha Nature. By enlightened here, I mean realizing our full potential, physically, emotionally and spiritually. That also means succeeding in this life in ways you formerly didn’t think were possible when you were allowing your subconscious mind to control your thoughts and life.

Curate your thoughts and your whole life. Be authentically yourself. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks of you, because that’s not why you’re here. You’re not here to please everyone or even anyone. You’re here to learn from the lessons you’ve been presented with and to remember the remarkable, powerful, joyful spirit you were before humans convinced you otherwise. (Some people call this a veil. We have many layers or veils that cover our true light). Then once you do, you help others do the same. There’s no more competition or defensiveness. Your life becomes all about love, happiness and deep peace. (I’m not claiming to be there yet but I’m working on it!)

Just know that the only bad memories are the ones that you dwell on and continue to relive in one way or another over and over again. Those are the ones that you allow into your life by not checking them at the door (stopping them when you first think of them). Those are the ones that keep you living beneath the veil and making yourself and everyone around you feel terrible because of negative energy.

So instead of trying to manifest something or some situation into your life, curate your own life by taking control over your subconscious false thoughts, living in the moment and loving every remarkable thing about yourself and YOUR life.

I also advice not watching the news, deleting anything negative in your social media and eliminating people who tend to trigger you to feel anything negative. Quit the job that’s getting you nowhere. Leave the partner who puts no effort into the relationship, let go of the false belief that you can’t be fit and healthy (from the examples above). Curate your thoughts and you will be surprised what doors open for you.

May you be happy and well!

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3 Replies to “How to retain only good memories”

    1. I had to look it up! I love it! Thank you for sharing that! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

      Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

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