Understanding perspective

If you understand this you are luckier than most!

We are all animated skeletons. We are just walking around doing things like they matter. 150 years from now everyone currently on this planet will be dead.

Have you seen this poem by Linda Ellis?

If you happen to look at an old family photo album or watch an old home movie in which family members have passed, when you think of their lives, do you remember them running around doing tasks, working all the time, stressing over every little thing, being angry and anxious? Or were they at peace, enjoying life, sharing, kind-hearted and full of joy?

Do you see how a life lived in stress is a sad waste of time? I’m not judging anyone here. We all have our own path to walk, our own journey, and it’s not a race.

How do you want to be remembered?

Better yet, how do you want to spend the rest of your life?

I, for one, have been seeking peace within. I’m trying to create a life of contentment where I remain in the present moment.

There is a part of myself that recognizes that the ways of the world aren’t necessarily the right way to live. At least it doesn’t feel right to me. I’m talking about working to pay bills then die, which, sadly, is still a way of life for many people. A constant struggle for something unattainable.

I don’t want to wait until I’m diagnosed with a fatal disease or on my death bed to realize what’s truly important in life. I want to LIVE what’s important NOW.

I was a hospice nurse for 6 years. The story I heard over and over again from the person dying was that what they thought mattered really didn’t. They made mountains out of molehills. While I would sit with them and absorb their infinite wisdom which came to them sadly so late in their lifetime, their family members would inevitably be running around doing things like they mattered, sometimes arguing over what mattered more and who would do what or stressing over trivial things like how many ounces their dear family members drank that day. I plan to write more about the lessons I learned from my hospice patients. Those six years were life-changing for me in so many ways.

The next time you think you’re upset about someone or some event in your life, remind yourself that whatever it is, isn’t worth wasting your time over.

By “nature” (or upbringing) I tend to be a worrier. One day my husband said something to me that really made a difference. He is an artist. He talked to me about perspective.

He said that it is easy to focus on the details of a painting, to go over and over a minute piece of the work that somehow doesn’t feel right. It can become obsessive. However, as an artist, he was taught to not go that route but to make a point of continuing to step back over and over to look at the whole picture and see how everything fits together. So he does this every so many minutes even if he doesn’t think he’s dwelling. He’s made it part of the process. That’s what we all need to do in life.

Prioritize your life. If you’re feeling stressed about a perceived problem, step back for a moment. Realize what’s important. Perhaps it is taking care of your health, keeping your family together and safe, keeping a roof over your head and food on the table, for example. Then, if the issue has to do with those things work on it. If it has to do with something else, let that crap go!

I don’t know why it’s taken me this long in life to understand these simple concepts. I put this out there in hopes that someone who may be struggling with anxiety or is overwhelmed right now may benefit from these words.

With love,

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